1) I know. The number of students who say this is shocking. Regardless of the reason it is said: nervous, frustration, arrogance, it can stand NOT to be said. It gives off the impression that you as the student are not willing to receive new information, a new perspective on old information, or an assessment of your ability to execute information given.
Further, it does not invite mentors to continue to pour into you. They are busy and are truly only trying to help. Instead say things like:
Thank you.
I did implement what I thought to be that and received these results ___. Did I understand correctly? Is there a better way for me to approach this?
I did read that and did arrive at that conclusion. However, I did get lost at this stage. Can you share some light on that?
2) I’ve done everything already. I just can’t with this one. Lol. No - we haven’t. We just mad. Take a break and let’s get back to it!
3) I am doing everything they are doing. Every time I have heard this from anyone it has been absolutely false! Haha. We are masters at convincing ourselves we are doing something, when in fact we are far from it.
If you enter primary care, you will often see this in a patient experiencing diabetes who tells you they eat a well balanced diet and have normal blood glucose levels at home. You check their A1C and it is up 3 percentage points and you ask for their detailed snack and meal list and a truer picture begins to form.
Even me – I’ve always wanted a tight core. I enjoy the gym and occasionally do a body works plus abs class. Then I go home and avoid diet restrictions, discontinue core exercises in-between gym visits, and am not intentional about engaging core in activities of daily living. Yet, in my mind – I should have a four-pack. Lol! I had to get real with myself and ask how often and how long are you doing core specific exercises? What professional have you sought out to hold you accountable to your form? What are you willing to do differently to get a different result? Approach to study schedule is no different. We must get real with ourselves and ask, did I do every item on my list? Did I do them fully and to the best of my ability? Did I ask for help for the topics i didn't not understand or did I place it on my work on later list, and later hasn't come?
We may be emulating what others are doing or what we are told to do, but that doesn’t mean we are actually doing it, effectively. Check yourself and be willing to reassess with a person that is more experienced than you.
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